Do We Ever Stop Living In The Past?

Do we ever stop living in the past? Ok I guess the true question is does the past ever stop affecting us? Of course we all get over the little things like not getting the birthday present we wanted or the fight we had with our bff in the 2nd grade, but what about the big things? Like moving states? Or a bad break up? Any of those events that change your life. Do we ever really move on after breaking up with someone we loved, even if they weren't "right" for us in one way or another? Or is that person permanently scratched into our hearts and minds? Sure the scratch fades/shrinks so we can move on, but do we really ever (move on)? We are changed if we notice it or not. We become more hesitant about certain things so we, hopefully, don't get hurt again. We try to "fix" ourselves to the liking of one other. But is there someone out there who's willing to take us for who we are? Un"fixed". Ok I got a little off track with that last thought, so lets get back on it. There are those events in your life that cause you so much pain, like a move that you didn't want to make or the lost of someone you care about, and it seems like some people get over them after awhile. But there are those of us, like me, who don't. I moved from one state to another right before my 6th grade year and when I got here I was bullied by this one girl who was my friend for 6 months before she turned on me. She made my friends turn their backs on me, called me names, tormented, even tried to start a few fights with me. Now I feel like I'm just waiting for that to happen all over again. Or like the time one of my family-friends died in a car crash at the age of 16. I think about it from time to time and feel really down-in-the-dumps because of it and can't stop myself from thinking about it. Does everyone keep thinking about stuff like that and some are just better at hiding it? Or is it just some of us? Or is it just me? And if some people are able to move on, how do they do it? How do they stop living in the past/stop the past from affecting them so much?

Oh And P.S. I think it's so cool that the first person to view this blog (who isn't me or my boyfriend) was from Germany!